Singleness is not a punishment for bad character and marriage is not a reward for good character
Media personality, Emmanuel Ugolee, has asked people to stop measuring a woman’s attitude with her relationship status.
Emmanuel in a post shared on his Instagram page, addressed people who are of the notion that ladies who are married are the ones with a good character while the single ones are those with a bad character.
He stated that being single is not a punishment for having a bad attitude and that being married is not a reward for having a good attitude. His post reads
”One of the most commonly believed notions right here.
How unfortunate then it will be, to on an umbrella note “yimu” at that guy who got divorced at 42 and say he was “too irresponsible to handle marraige” or to the lady divorced at 39 and say for sure “no man can live with her type”.
Meanwhile in reality, the 42 year old had a promiscuous wife and the 39 year old, an abusive husband.
On the contrary, A late home coming, wife bashing, addicted to gambling and no providing guy is at least still a husband they’ll argue. So he gets the pass on “Responsibility”
Same goes for woman who makes the home h*ll but works out a cohabitation plan with her spouse. She gets to keep the “Responsible” tag too. And would be quick to remind you, “its Mrs K please” when you dare make the tittle omission while addressing her.
The power of marriage to protect in this regard is a mirage. So if you use it for that plastic cover, its only a matter of time, the heat called reality would melt it away.
If you are also guilty as charged for labeling people based on the marriage status and not their real character, we change that today.
Do not forget that one person cannot make a marriage work. Just what if you have labeled wrongly the one who tried the hardest to make it work?
Shout out to all those who have truly stuck it out in marriage because of the true reflection and impact of their characters and sense of responsibility
But please never again label a single person whose story you do not know.